I Hate Bullies!

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When I first went to secondary school I was in top sets for Maths, English and Science. In my first year I was a hardworking student along with my friends Andrew and Stephen. I remember winning cinema tickets for being the top student in my year. My brother and I went to the cinema to watch the movie, Twister. That was the first time I had been to the cinema and I thoroughly enjoyed it.

However, due to peer pressure I began to be lazy and eventually stopped caring about studying. I wanted to be part of the gang who flaunted rules and disrespected the teachers. I would regularly skip classes and my attendance was poor. I still read books but I lost interest in Maths and Science.  My English teacher was great and I still enjoyed writing.

There were occasional fights and arguments at the school but in general everyone got along. My two friends from primary school were also there. We used to travel to and from school in a van. The driver was eccentric and decorated his van with tinsel and little bells.

Bullied Relentlessly

There was one person at school called H who was mercilessly bullied day in and day out. Every break and dinner time a gang of twenty boys would tease him and laugh at him. They would constantly joke about him in class too. The poor guy faced this throughout the five years in secondary school. Now that I look back to this time, I realise he was actually one of the most decent persons in the school.

They teased him for his bad breath, they teased him about how he spoke, they teased him for his looks, it was relentless and cruel. I never joined in with the psychological torture they put him through. I used to see the bullying and grew to hate bullies. I have this attitude even to this day. Most of the boys weren’t malicious but they just preferred that the attention be on someone else. From about twenty boys who would gather at lunch and breaks I would say there were only five who were genuinely malicious.

Thankfully, after leaving school H started going to the gym and became well built and muscular, they wouldn’t dare to mock him now.  This theme of redemption is included in my book, The Fire Mage.

Peer pressure is very strong during the teenage years and nobody wants to stand out fearing they would become the focus of ridicule and bullying.

Studying For GCSEs

As the years went by I started studying intensely for my GCSEs. I particularly enjoyed Humanities and English Literature, I remember studying An Inspector Calls, Animal Farm and Romeo and Juliet. Shakespeare was a genius and the greatest writer in the English language. He had such foresight that themes he wrote about hundreds of years ago are relevant to this day.  Have you experienced or seen bullying?  Please share your experiences.

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  1. One thing about bullies is that they feel superior to thei victims! You can say the same about many countries at war, due to religion or race. These predators will always exist; a reason or a cause has an infinite similar effect. Once a bully, always a bully… Yet I do have a theory… What if someone knows that they hate something or someone, but feels bad, wanting to change it inside, so desperately, that it gets erased from your mind, causing a corruption inside it, making you go insane, hearing and seeing things that aren’t there, because you see “yourself” differently. And are trying to repair this damage, that has grown for thousands of years…
    Bullies are usually physically stronger and bigger, idiotic ( this also may have been growing for ages).
    The victims are usually clever and smaller, physically weaker. Along with the mentality that they are racially, religiously and sexually inferior (homosexuals and transsexuals get it bad. I do pity them and know they are following their heart but not their sexuality. I’m not gay but I find them intriguing, but I also have a dislike too…not wanting to be like that)
    As bullies are stupid, religion or race doesn’t mean anything to them. It’s all the same, whether you are Bengali, pakistani, black, white or Indian. Muslim or not you’ll get bullied, if you fit the criteria.
    I believe thinkers are physically weak, while doers are mentally weak

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  2. Sutobai… I have been a victim of bullying, u might not remember me telling u about a boy in primary school called kamran, (who later died of brain cancer). Once he was on top of me, pounding my head into the ground. Even though I never really told anyone, thought I might let it out on your blog or you would never know. Like bysab and borafa, sutafa. Funnily enough, I too started getting into weight lifting, and Bruce Lee’s MMA Style of JEET KUNE DO – JKD. Press ups, squats, and sit-ups were a daily routine, throughout secondary school. Bysab got me some weights once, and I would always lift. There these two bullies I sorted out. AF and DB. these two racists got it, like they deserved. Sometimes, I wonder if I became the bully in the end… I really hate racists, sexists and fascists. Knowing that I may have these feelings too, helps me change the bad into good… I left school and never looked back, Islam was portrayed as pure evil at the time, so I saught out Islam and Allah, due to it.

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  3. I remember those days well! I’m ashamed to say, I was probably one of the culprits partaking. Looking back, never would I condone or participate in any form of bullying. I have witnessed, the psychological impact, bullying can have on people. I truly regret what I saw, heard, sometimes encouraged and probably amplified the pain certain individuals were being put through. I guess all I can say is a victim of bullying, can sometimes normalise and reciprocate the pain received, on towards others. To this day I regret a lot of things I did and witnessed and sincerely hope I am forgiven for any wrongdoings. I am an advocate of the anti-bullying movement and do educate people, especially young people, who may succumb to peer pressure, and gang mentality and do things out of character, just to fit in. A truly heart-wrenching piece, My Brother.

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    • We are all guilty of doing things heedlessly when we were younger without considering the impact our actions have. I think it is great that you try to teach younger people about the consequences of bullying.The effect of bullying stays with you for the rest of your life and saps self confidence and socialising skills.

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  4. This bought back memories for me.

    I remember being bullied in primary school. Being shy doesn’t help, and it’s like bullies can sniff victims of bullying a mile away! 🙁
    And bullying only serves to make the victim more meek which doesn’t help when trying to stay away from bullies.

    Thank you for this. I love a good redemption read.

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  5. My experience of bullying has been of all kinds; a recipient of bullying, a passive spectator, something I regret) and an active participant, something I still need to atone for in life. Being Bengali in a predominantly Pakistani neighbourhood led to bullying, just name calling which I’ve moved on from but the irony of this being how the same neighbourhood kids would receive racial slurs as soon as we stepped into secondary school and left our 99% ethnic primary schools. Even in my professional work place, I still see playground mentalities. Recently, a junior colleague tried to verbally impose on me some work via email. I took my time to reply to rein in my anger and calmly refused. I told them politely to go and complete that task themselves. But the ability to judge and reflect isn’t something I would do in my youth. I was feared after one fight in school and I used that status to mock and bully those who irked me. I like to think I’ve changed but building true character takes a lifetime.

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      • I agree it is being complicit in the act, but being internally conflicted shows a level of humanity. That’s all in the past now, unavoidable and meant to be. Some people are naturally strong while others develop that strength, it’s a blessing to be in either group.

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  6. This is a great read. I am so happy that now H got his redemption. I do not understand what bullies get out of teasing others. It is due to their own issues that they face, they take it out on others. I thoroughly enjoyed reading the book knowing it was inspired from real life events.

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